*Pick one or more:
1. Ask him.
This should have been a sign to stop reading here.
2. Have sex with him more often (several times/day works wonders).
And catch the STD from the strange. Also, how would you know, Chris-Chan?
Yeah, if you fear that your husband is cheating, then there is a real problem with your relationship that needs to be fixed more than you catching him or spying on him.State your fears to him directly and ask him what happened in the relationship that caused it. Do not do this in a confrontational or aggressive manner; that will only cause him to become defensive, evasive, etc, etc. It may be that the way you communicate with your husband, or your actions, are interpreted differently by him than you think. Not saying women cause men to cheat, but both sides harm the relationship enough that one tries to justify drifting. If someone isn't getting love and affection at home, they will find SOME way to get it.
That's cute how you put the onus on her and blame the victim when hes the one cheating.
Also, what you said isn't necessarily true. Something about hardwired to spead genes or somesuch. Another thing about how for some people cheating is thrillseeking. Then there was that stuff about how some people are just plain deceptive. I don't know I was watching Dr. Phil instead of paying attention in class.
Either way, if you have any plans on staying with him, then spying on him is not going to help rebuild trust in the relationship. Act like an adult.
Wrong. The relationship is over. A small amount might temporarily recover and an even smaller amount permanently. You probably aren't going to be in that small percentage.
Do not push the issue. Start taking notes of EVERYTHING. Squirrel away money. If you have a joint account with which you do your shopping, take cash back and deposit it. Buy a scanner and scan everything, bills, deeds, licenses. Build a support network. Start thinking about an exit strategy. Do not do anything to sabotage yourself. Compile a list of possible passwords he might use.
This response reminds me of a time I was watching Cheaters with 2 other people, both male. One was reacting to the situations, defending male cheaters and chastising female cheaters completely oblivious to the dissonance. The worst part though is that I wasn't at all surprised.
Try getting the texts and call log via the service provider's online account manager, if you have access to it. If you're authorized to make decisions regarding the account, you can get a username and p/w. I know for a fact that T Mobile has that shit available on their online account manager. Then, just print out the damning evidence and present it to him for great justice.
You're the wife; you're authorized. With T-Mobile, you need the address, phone number and last 4 digits of the SSN. A few years ago, this could even be done via the online chat.
I don't know much about cell phones but even if he has extra memory installed on the phone, the text messages, call lists, etc will be stored in the memory on the phone.
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